The Strange Case of the Missing Mojo

Do you ever feel like you’ve run out of fuel for something you’re trying to do in your life, even though you were super gung-ho when you set out? Over the past couple of months I’ve been battling a mojo-deficit in the Gumption project; full of ideas and plans and starts that are full of good intention, all of which were sabotaged by a lack of will to follow them through.

Of course I have all the usual excuses about other work, obligations to various people, things that desperately needed doing on my property…busy, busy, busy, only so many hours in a day, etcetera. But if I stop and listen to what I tell other people (I do listen sometimes) I have to admit that putting Gumption at the bottom of my priority list was a choice I was making. Why? Because I was just plain worn out with the constant effort of creating momentum for it.

I’m just now rising from the ashes and realizing this is a really normal aspect of doing anything that requires tenacity of heart and effort. The rewards can get lost in the tsunami of to-dos. Sometimes you go into the mojo barrel for your daily dose and discover – holy crap! – there isn’t any left.

So what’s a girl to do? In my case, I let myself play hooky, kind of unintentionally at first and then with acceptance. I whined to my cheerleaders – which isn’t very productive but felt good at the time. Then, when I’d had enough of resting and whining, and started actually missing the purpose I feel with this thing, I started looking at past feedback from people who’ve gotten something out of Gumption. Digging those rewards out from the tsunami debris reminded me of why this effort is worth it, and a good why is a great tool for generating forward movement.

And just as I was doing a slo-mo return to activity, the universe delivered a scheduling incentive – a speaking gig that’s put me into hyper-drive about getting all those ideas and plans in place that I’ve been ignoring. Like an emphatic, cosmic kick in the butt. Thank you, higher powers. Making a commitment gets action out of me like nothing else.

So that’s how I’m getting back into gear. I’m pretty sure a lot of you have had mojo lapses yourselves and I’d love to hear how you get over them. It’s a good bet I’ll need those tools again in the future!

6 thoughts on “The Strange Case of the Missing Mojo

  1. Winnifred Rosser

    Thanks Shelagh this article is so timely. I’m having a major mojo-deficiet at the moment and the frustration is huge, as we are busy starting the summer season with visitors to the B&B, along with taking others on tour and the annual major bout of hay fever. What doesn’t help are the constant dreams each night about just not arriving in time, completing things in time etc (the usual anxiety driven dreams). I have been telling myself its okay to slow down a bit, but today I finally re-potted my geraniums and felt I could actually tick something off the ‘to do list’.
    As usual, we are always too hard on ourselves and when I realised today that it had only been a month since my return from Australia and of course there hasn’t been time to do everything, it is important to be patient. Why are we ladies always so hard on ourselves!!! Now I’m going to have a coffee break and then get back to trying to tick off more from the never ending list of things that have to be done.

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    1. Shelagh Post author

      The obsession with ticking off to-do lists is hard to shake even when our psyches (or whatever comes up with the mojo) are telling us to chill for a bit. I find that when I’ve let myself take a break for a longish time, the tasks appear enormous when I return to them – but I suspect they’re inflated with guilt – proprio gonfiati! Because when I do start picking away they’re still achieved one at a time, just like your geraniums.

      Hope your mojo picks up soon.

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  2. Kate Bridger

    Agreed … don’t fight it too hard, the more you resist, the more it persists and it is then further compounded by layers of frustration, guilt and a whole barrage of ‘shoulds’. The act of accepting and partial surrender usually makes room for new and exciting stimuli to crank up the old mojo engine. That’s how it works for me, anyway. In fact, I’m in that very place right now …

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    1. Shelagh Post author

      Oh yes, the guilt thing! I definitely felt that too. Hope your mojo-deficit doesn’t last too long and your stimuli are coming to the rescue.

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